In these current times it has become natural for a couple of a certain age to practice the characteristics of a “responsible relationship.” Those qualities usually parallel the likes of a marriage. Thus making marriage that much more meaningless. When something as serious and sacred as marriage begins to resemble an everyday relationship between two people getting to know one another, it lessens the value of marriage. Dating now looks dangerously like marriage and marriage looks detrimentally close to dating. We’re all fools rushing in. Going from 0-100 in faster than emotions are able to handle.
Once a couple has reached its “serious stage” and begins to act like they are married, a few things are then damaged. All of your emotions become invested into something casual, which is very much like cashing out one’s 401K, and using the entire lump to buy lottery tickets. Lottery tickets are a casual investment, and your 401K is all you have. Now this casual thing has become everything to you. This possibly temporary situation has now become all you have.
Along with rushing and putting all of yourself into a possibility, dating today leaves nothing left for marriage. Why should we get married? because after sex, and moving in together, what’s left to do other than have a child. Marriage is bigger than a baby. A baby will not make a marriage. It is more likely for a child to break a relationship than to help.
Courting preserves the sanctity of marriage. Not only the image of it, but that image is everything. Divorce is popular because of the casual appearance it has been given. But marriage is a holy thing that should be treated as such. It is not something to be rushed into, carelessly tried, or duplicated. A preferred form of getting to know the opposite sex is courting. Saving the best of each other for the next step.